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  • Mental retardation is no excuse for abuse. But it’s still an apt term, in denotation. But the connotation has become unacceptable.

    A plant’s growth may be retarded due to various conditions, and that may interfere with it’s prospects for survival.

    Fire retardant may prevent a fire from starting, or stop one that has started to develop.

    But when considering people, there are a whole slew of subtle problems, including that people may include that in their identity, and give up. They can be treated, possibly, but that’s all for them now. You’re a retard. It leaves no room for other things. People still feel this way about some diagnoses that, if they didn’t lean into them so hard, leave plenty of room for change. But the social weight behind “retard” just carries too much crap, and speaks volumes - some of which may be true, but a lot of which is not.

    ‘Disabled’, ‘undeveloped’, and ‘inhibited’ can be good terms. But most of it depends more heavily on how we treat others and what has been taken into common use.



  • bastion@feddit.nltoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldIs "retard" a slur?
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    5 days ago

    Except that with “retard” and quite a few others, there are genuine traits that are undesirable to most people, thus the constant cycling of terms. Technical terms come in to general and pejorative use, then new technical terms come in to be less pejorative. This the terms more and more vaguely refer to the condition when referencing actual mentally handicapped people.

    idiot moron cretin retard (from ‘[profound] mental retardation’)

    All technical or health terms that have been cycled into being slurs in common use. Some more terms that have made their way into pejorative use:

    Handicapped (not so much pejoratively used, but being cycled out anyways) Special Differently Abled

    I’m sure any new technical terms that are used will be picked up for pejorative use soon enough. But “mentally retarded” was and is an apt description, it’s just not socially acceptable anymore because of it’s ease of use as an insult, and the concomitant public view and usage of the word.





  • Yes, it’s easy. BUT:

    • buy Linux-compatible hardware. While you might technically be able to get something to run by fucking around, it’s just better to buy Linux-compatible hardware. If something doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. Put it on a shelf and try again in six months.
    • If you’re dual-booting windows, know that windows occasionally nukes the boot loader, so that only windows loads. This happens irregularly, like every 2-5 years. A Linux friend can help fix it, or you can follow instructions online (you need an empty thumb drive to do it).


  • Perhaps, that they get off on the whole process of projecting “this person is so awesome and can’t fail!” because it feels good and gives them hope, and what’s wrong with good vibes anyways, amirite? …along with that goes a lot of physical resources and torrents of surface-level emotional support.

    …until the person buys into it wholesale because it’s all they’re fed, and, because they think they can’t fuck up now, they start fucking up. Once they start fucking up, opinion starts turning. As opinion turns, the emotional support dries up. Obsessive adoration becomes obsessive hatred, person by person. What was manageable when everyone helped is no longer manageable when everyone fights you. You feel betrayed, and care about the people less. You make more shitty decisions. A feedback loop occurs, until the person realizes (well enough) what’s going on, and ducks out of the race, or buys into the negativity and adopts that as their self-view, or (occasionally) just handles the strain and breaks on through to the other side.

    Meanwhile, people got to feel hope (yay, wasn’t that nice?!) and “justified” hatred (i mean, clearly he’s the asshole! What a fucking power mongering dickhead!).

    And, what do you need after all that? Hope! Let’s find something positive to think about!

    It’s cringey. That’s not to say that Musk’s behavior isn’t also cringey - it’s just clear to me that the cringe isn’t centralized on him, it’s well-distributed. There are a LOT of people that are just as trashy - and it’s generally the people that are all about burning him down (most of whom were all about building him up before).

    The fun part is - even though I find it all really interesting, cringey, etc, at the end of the day, I kindof don’t care. I’m just watching people get what they deserve. I wish they deserved better, and maybe they will someday - but their own behavior has 'em locked in a loop.

    We all fuck up sometimes, but at least it’s somewhat self-limiting, even on the massive collective scale.






  • The thing that’s so laughable and tawdry is that the people that hate him now are generally the same ones that worshipped him before.

    Make a god out of some random person, then demonize them. Build them up, then burn them down. The whole thing is pretty cringe of the general public.

    The same dynamic happens with actors, and while they’re the Darling, they do great, perform better, etc. Eventually it breaks, and public opinion turns, and then the person is the Bastard. Their careers suffer, their temperament suffers, and a lot of people drop out of the race at that point. Those who don’t truly are exceptional people, but at the end of it all, don’t really give a fuck about public opinion.

    Musk has yet to show what he’s going to do. But I knew when they were lifting him up that they’d burn him down.