I have a few.
One is abbreviation hell. Nobody is going to spend the time trying to decipher what you mean when you use over several abbreviations. It is just better if you’d explain than expecting people to understand aside from commonly used abbreviations that are easy to understand.
Another is overstepping your limits for the sake of getting a partner. Compromising your own standards is perhaps one of the worst things you can do when it comes to trying to find dates. Like you’re suddenly okay with dating single parents but you don’t like children. You’re suddenly okay with dating religious people but you’re not religious. Things like that. Because it means you’re desperate and you’re setting yourself up and setting them up for a bad date.
I have seen quite a few of those because people say you’re supposed to keep looking if they aren’t helping you. I’ve spoken to maybe 5 different ones at this point. They never have much of substance to say but are very quick to deduct large amounts of money from my bank account. I don’t entirely understand what I am supposed to do to get something out of that. Not sure how many more I’m supposed to see or how much more thousands of dollars I’m supposed to spend before someone actually has any ideas of what to do beyond chatting with me and giving basic advice/platitudes.
I’ve honestly had similar enough chats with ChatGPT for free.
Have you tried a psychologist? They have a lot more experience than a counselor and might have a better chance, but it’ll cost more too. Also they can diagnose things which might make getting the right help easier if it’s something more than just social anxiety that’s getting missed.
Psychologists are better than counselors, but bear in mind there is a ton of variety in the quality of psychologists too.
Also as someone with 3 psychologists in my family, I personally have them stereotyped as greedy, narcissistic opportunists. But again I’m probably biased…