I’m not defending anything, I’m just saying that if you expect people to behave a certain way, and they don’t behave that way, you can either continue to expect them to behave that way and be disappointed, or you can change your expectations.
This isn’t a child’s bad behavior. It’s a national problem. Rapists and racists don’t get a pass and say “Oh well. We should expect better.” They are the problem. They should be handled as a problem.
Well, you need to adjust your expectations.
That’s not defending racism, sexism or bigotry. Doesn’t sound like it at all!
I’m not defending anything, I’m just saying that if you expect people to behave a certain way, and they don’t behave that way, you can either continue to expect them to behave that way and be disappointed, or you can change your expectations.
This isn’t a child’s bad behavior. It’s a national problem. Rapists and racists don’t get a pass and say “Oh well. We should expect better.” They are the problem. They should be handled as a problem.
I don’t understand. Handled how?
Whatever makes them understand their behavior violates the social contract our society has written.