I used to work as a chef here in Australia. One workplace I was at had the head chef both participate, and condone, in a culture of ruthlessly doing this. I was constantly targeted, because I was obviously queer, even tho I was cis male-presenting at the time and married. One day I was locked in the cool-room with two other chefs, much larger than me, who pulled my pants down to do this to me, as well as trying to get me hard. All to prove that I was actually gay and lying to my then wife. It was the catalyst that finally made me come out, as despite trying to force myself into the closet, it somehow was still obvious that I was queer to people. And yeah, I’m gay, but gay for girls.